When a Dream Reminds You How Far You’ve Come

I had a dream last night about people who are no longer in my life. People who, at one point, I might have bent over backward for. People I once tried to prove my worth to. And now? They give me the ick.

But the weirdest part wasn’t them—it was me.

In this dream, I wasn’t who they used to know. I wasn’t shrinking myself, seeking approval, or over-explaining my feelings. I wasn’t trying to be understood or hoping they’d finally see me differently.

I was her. The version of me I’ve worked so damn hard to become. The one who moves differently. The one who doesn’t tolerate the bare minimum. The one who no longer entertains energy that doesn’t align.

And when I woke up, I sat with it for a minute. Because here’s the thing—I got my closure years ago. I don’t think about these people. I don’t feel anger, sadness, or even curiosity about them anymore. So why did they show up in my dream?

Then it hit me.

Maybe this wasn’t about them at all. Maybe my dream was a mirror, reflecting how much I’ve grown. A reminder that even my subconscious no longer operates from old wounds.

Because you know what? Healing isn’t just something you do consciously. It’s not just the journaling, the therapy, or the deep conversations. It’s how your nervous system no longer reacts to what used to trigger you. It’s the way your body, even in sleep, responds from a place of self-trust rather than self-doubt.

And that? That’s healing. That’s transformation. That’s proof of just how far you’ve come.

So if someone from your past pops up in your dreams, don’t assume it means something is unresolved. Maybe it’s just your subconscious giving you a front-row seat to your own evolution.

Maybe it’s a quiet nod from the universe saying, See? You’re not that girl anymore.

And that’s something worth celebrating.